More abundantly

The words “more abundantly” came to mind today. I started looking into what it meant and went to the Bible first.

John 10:10 says “I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.”

The word abundant is defined as:

– existing in large quantities

– plentiful

– more than adequate

– richly supplied, as with resources

I was laying in bed, and I found myself staring at this prayer request board I have by my bathroom door. I can see it perfectly from my bed. I put it here so It was always in plain sight, and because I wanted to get intentional about my prayer life and record things so I could be tracking what was answered!

The prayer request I wrote around 7/11/2018 was “My relationship/courting/90 day friendship with Stephen Cherveny.”

But on 10/17/2016 I wrote “My future husband.”

It’s so crazy how much has changed in just one year, but even more so in almost 3 years! In the last 3 years I’ve changed churches, got a puppy, met the girl I didn’t know would become my sister in law and met my future husband. But in the last 12 months, I got a phone call from said future husband asking me on a date (so old school), got engaged, AND married.

If you EVER forget how good God is, look back at all the prayers he HAS answered. And ‘yes’ is not the only answer. God has answered SO many prayers over the years, especially when it came to dating, with ‘no’. I obviously had no idea what was in store for me, but God did, and he protected me from so much to get me to where I am.

And where I am is far “more abundant” that I absolutely ever imagined for myself.


Our year of sober living

Stephen and I decided while we were engaged to give up alcohol for a year after our honeymoon. We found that a lot of our social lives revolves around food and alcohol, and since we’re super strict budgeting for the next long while, we decided alcohol would be a good thing to give up as well.

On the last day of our honeymoon we were killing time, stting at a Mexican restaurant I decided on water and a coke instead of a margarita…I’m also giving up caffeine. I’m a terrible sleeper and we’re hoping that the removal of both uppers and downers from my diet changes that, but I digress.

We’ve been alcohol free for 7 weeks, and honestly it’s been WAY easier than I thought it would be. We’ve gotten some “you’re not going to last” comments from friends, but if the rest of the year is as easy as the last 7 weeks have been, we’ll make it 10 months and many more.

I’m sleeping better, my skin has cleared up, I’m not bloated or holding water like I was before, and waking up without a hangover has been amazing! I’m waking up at 8am on the weekends and spending my mornings productively before enjoying the rest of the day with my husband. I am loving the extra time I’m getting in my weekends!

Do you live a sober life? Have you noticed anything different in your life now than when you were drinking? I’ve noticed lots of things but will post about this in a few months.


Planning an eco-friendly wedding

I’m going to be honest with you, I did 90% of my own wedding planning myself. I didn’t hire a planner or a full coordinator because I had an idea in mind and new I could figure it out myself. But I did hire a day of coordinator to help with all the details that day like keeping us on schedule, dealing with the vendors, cleaning up, collecting gifts and cards to put in my car, etc.

One of the changes I’ve been working on as a soon to be new wife was how can our money go further, but how can we be more sustainable in the process, even when it comes to the wedding?

Dishes: Our appetizer and dinner plates were all eco-friendly, made from 100% Natural Sugarcane. How cool is that?? I had looked into renting beautiful dishes, but that would have cost us $2,500. Instead we found these simple, elegant dishes that would work perfectly, while also being cautious of the environment. You can order them here.

Napkins: We bought cloth napkins for our guests and donated them to our wedding coordinator for her to rent out to future clients, instead of just tossing them. Plus they looked really beautiful in burgundy with gold silverware tucked inside.

Dessert Bar: We did a dessert bar for the reception. Instead of hiring a fancy bakery, we used our local grocery stores bakery instead to cut on costs. For the set up, we reused all of the items my mom had created for the bridal shower. She’d made these beautiful 2 tier serving platters from plates and candle sticks she bought at the Dollar Store and had other plates and trays that we took advantage of as well.

Guest book: We wanted a guest book that would be useful, rather than something that would hang on the wall. We ended up ordering a giant custom Jenga set for people to leave a note on, so they could help us build our love. ♥️ it’ll be great to have for tailgates, backyard bbqs or just hanging out with our kids in the future. Plus, every time we use it we’ll be reminded of all the love from friends and family!

For my bridal shower, my mom also purchased us a beautiful Bible with our names on the cover. She has guests highlight their favorite verse and sign their name. We used that as a guest book as well so we can look back on those scriptures!

Decor: Our ceremony decor consisted of on a cream chandelier that we rented from the venue. I wanted super simple. Nothing to take away or distract our guests, but also to highlight to beautiful backdrop. We got married under a massive and stunning oak tree and I felt she was a star of the decor. Nothing additional or unnecessary fluff was going to make her any more beautiful.

Our reception was SUPER simple. We rented farmhouse tables from our venue, which thankfully don’t need much decoration since they’re beautiful on their own! I took the labels off of 40+ wine bottles that we’d saved or collected from my parents and friends to use on the tables. My mom added glitter to about half and our florist filled them all with flowers. We added gold candle votives as well for a change of dimension and a little romantic lighting. I was able to rent the majority of those from our florist and then purchased an additional 25 + the tea lights on amazon. We let all of the guests take home the wine bottles with flowers so they could continue to enjoy them at home and hopefully reuse the bottles!!

How did you incorporate being conscious and eco-friendly into your wedding?


“be indebted to no one”

“be indebted to no one except to one another in love.” Romans 13:8

As I’ve been trying, and we continue to pay down debt, this verse has been on my heart. The idea of being in debted to no one EXCEPT in love. What an idea. That we only owe in love. It’s definitely made me rethink swiping my card before spending money.

I find that debt has taken up more space in my brain than just stress over finances. It’s caused stress when things unexpectedly occur, like my husbands truck getting totaled last Friday. It wasn’t paid off. We don’t have insurance on him if he gets hit by someone without insurance, and it was a hit and run, so we don’t even know who to track down for money!

It also has caused emotional strain. Not anymore, but there was a point when I realized I was bringing a lot of debt into our marriage where I felt guilty for the choices I made when I was single. For spending money like it didn’t matter, with no regard to the consequences. Now my sweet husband and I get to tackle it together, which isn’t his fault. It’s taken me a little bit of time to not feel guilty, but to turn that guilt into motivation to get out of debt ASAP!

What are you in debted to? Is it something that causes stress and is weighing you down, more than just emotionally?Hopefully it’s only to others in love! ♥️