More abundantly

The words “more abundantly” came to mind today. I started looking into what it meant and went to the Bible first.

John 10:10 says “I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.”

The word abundant is defined as:

– existing in large quantities

– plentiful

– more than adequate

– richly supplied, as with resources

I was laying in bed, and I found myself staring at this prayer request board I have by my bathroom door. I can see it perfectly from my bed. I put it here so It was always in plain sight, and because I wanted to get intentional about my prayer life and record things so I could be tracking what was answered!

The prayer request I wrote around 7/11/2018 was “My relationship/courting/90 day friendship with Stephen Cherveny.”

But on 10/17/2016 I wrote “My future husband.”

It’s so crazy how much has changed in just one year, but even more so in almost 3 years! In the last 3 years I’ve changed churches, got a puppy, met the girl I didn’t know would become my sister in law and met my future husband. But in the last 12 months, I got a phone call from said future husband asking me on a date (so old school), got engaged, AND married.

If you EVER forget how good God is, look back at all the prayers he HAS answered. And ‘yes’ is not the only answer. God has answered SO many prayers over the years, especially when it came to dating, with ‘no’. I obviously had no idea what was in store for me, but God did, and he protected me from so much to get me to where I am.

And where I am is far “more abundant” that I absolutely ever imagined for myself.


My pride bought me the car I wanted

The car I wanted in 2017 was not the car I could afford, but it was the one my pride said I needed. I’m learning that a few years later.

In May 2017 I had the privilege of getting to replace my vw turbo. How lucky of me. Right at 65,000 miles it needed to be replaced…apparently something normal for VW. Something I was NOT warned about at my 60,000 checkup.

The replacement cost me over $4,000. That’s after 4 brand new tires, a windshield and a 60,000 checkup in March. Needless to say, that first half was very very expensive.

So after getting the turbo replaced, I sold the car and upgrade to an Acura RDX & a lease. A car I really couldn’t afford, but a car that I knew was nice, that my friends and family would think was nice, and a car that honesty id been eyeing for years.

10 months later I was at Honda begging them to buy my Acura and put me in something cheaper. They happily did, and into another lease. See, I didn’t have any savings. I had a lot of debt, so there was no money for a down payment.

Now it’s June 2019. My husband is realizing that a lease is essentially a long rental and the HR-V that I got will not work in Colorado when we move in the future. Which means we’ll be selling the HR-V to get me into something different that can handle more than sprinkling rain. (LOL but seriously)

Looking back my pride was such a big issue. I could have gotten something way less nice for a payment I could afford without a lease but didn’t want to. So much learning has been happening, and will continue to do so. It’s neat watching God break me down to build me back up.

My advice. Look HARD before making a big purchase. Check your heart. Did you walk into Acura because you can really truly afford it and do want it, or because it’s something your friends will compliment? My reason was definitely not the first. Also look hard before deciding to sign a lease. You do not get to keep the car at the end. You make all the payments and then give it back. Renting an apartment sucks because you’re putting money into an investment for someone else, a lease works the same way.

Buy the car you can afford. Pay cash if possible. If you can’t pay cash, make sure you truly can afford the payments. Do a lot of research before signing a lease. Check for the best sales and haggle!! Even though you can’t at CarMax, you can everywhere else!!


Our year of sober living

Stephen and I decided while we were engaged to give up alcohol for a year after our honeymoon. We found that a lot of our social lives revolves around food and alcohol, and since we’re super strict budgeting for the next long while, we decided alcohol would be a good thing to give up as well.

On the last day of our honeymoon we were killing time, stting at a Mexican restaurant I decided on water and a coke instead of a margarita…I’m also giving up caffeine. I’m a terrible sleeper and we’re hoping that the removal of both uppers and downers from my diet changes that, but I digress.

We’ve been alcohol free for 7 weeks, and honestly it’s been WAY easier than I thought it would be. We’ve gotten some “you’re not going to last” comments from friends, but if the rest of the year is as easy as the last 7 weeks have been, we’ll make it 10 months and many more.

I’m sleeping better, my skin has cleared up, I’m not bloated or holding water like I was before, and waking up without a hangover has been amazing! I’m waking up at 8am on the weekends and spending my mornings productively before enjoying the rest of the day with my husband. I am loving the extra time I’m getting in my weekends!

Do you live a sober life? Have you noticed anything different in your life now than when you were drinking? I’ve noticed lots of things but will post about this in a few months.


DIY laundry detergent

When I started looking into homesteading and what it looks like for my family, DIY cleaning products, soaps, detergent was the first thing I started looking into.

My sweet husbands skin gets irritated by laundry detergent and I have ezcuma so anything to help improve both of our skin was the first change I wanted to make. Through research, I learned there are a ton of different recipes, different soaps to use, so you use borax or no? Essential oils? Unscented/scented?

This is what I ended up doing and it’s so simple.

– 1/3-1/2 cup dr. B Castile soap. I bought the baby one since that’ll be the most sensitive for our skin.

⁃ 1/2 cup white vinegar

I bought a 1/3 and 1/2 cup measuring spoon that stays in the laundry room for this stuff only.

That’s it. The recipe I found, on the Dr.Bronners website, suggests the vinegar at the beginning of the rinse cycle but my washing machine has a special compartment for liquid softener, so I just put the vinegar in there!

Ive always preferred liquid detergent which is why I didn’t look into anything that was powder/dry.

This mix hasn’t caused any issues with either of our skins and his skin has cleared up since we made the switch! Who would have thought something made for cleaning our clothes could cause our bodies so many problems?!

The best part is that Dr.Bronners soap can be used for all kinds of different things! For more ways to use it, check out their website!


“be indebted to no one”

“be indebted to no one except to one another in love.” Romans 13:8

As I’ve been trying, and we continue to pay down debt, this verse has been on my heart. The idea of being in debted to no one EXCEPT in love. What an idea. That we only owe in love. It’s definitely made me rethink swiping my card before spending money.

I find that debt has taken up more space in my brain than just stress over finances. It’s caused stress when things unexpectedly occur, like my husbands truck getting totaled last Friday. It wasn’t paid off. We don’t have insurance on him if he gets hit by someone without insurance, and it was a hit and run, so we don’t even know who to track down for money!

It also has caused emotional strain. Not anymore, but there was a point when I realized I was bringing a lot of debt into our marriage where I felt guilty for the choices I made when I was single. For spending money like it didn’t matter, with no regard to the consequences. Now my sweet husband and I get to tackle it together, which isn’t his fault. It’s taken me a little bit of time to not feel guilty, but to turn that guilt into motivation to get out of debt ASAP!

What are you in debted to? Is it something that causes stress and is weighing you down, more than just emotionally?Hopefully it’s only to others in love! ♥️