Planning an eco-friendly wedding

I’m going to be honest with you, I did 90% of my own wedding planning myself. I didn’t hire a planner or a full coordinator because I had an idea in mind and new I could figure it out myself. But I did hire a day of coordinator to help with all the details that day like keeping us on schedule, dealing with the vendors, cleaning up, collecting gifts and cards to put in my car, etc.

One of the changes I’ve been working on as a soon to be new wife was how can our money go further, but how can we be more sustainable in the process, even when it comes to the wedding?

Dishes: Our appetizer and dinner plates were all eco-friendly, made from 100% Natural Sugarcane. How cool is that?? I had looked into renting beautiful dishes, but that would have cost us $2,500. Instead we found these simple, elegant dishes that would work perfectly, while also being cautious of the environment. You can order them here.

Napkins: We bought cloth napkins for our guests and donated them to our wedding coordinator for her to rent out to future clients, instead of just tossing them. Plus they looked really beautiful in burgundy with gold silverware tucked inside.

Dessert Bar: We did a dessert bar for the reception. Instead of hiring a fancy bakery, we used our local grocery stores bakery instead to cut on costs. For the set up, we reused all of the items my mom had created for the bridal shower. She’d made these beautiful 2 tier serving platters from plates and candle sticks she bought at the Dollar Store and had other plates and trays that we took advantage of as well.

Guest book: We wanted a guest book that would be useful, rather than something that would hang on the wall. We ended up ordering a giant custom Jenga set for people to leave a note on, so they could help us build our love. ♥️ it’ll be great to have for tailgates, backyard bbqs or just hanging out with our kids in the future. Plus, every time we use it we’ll be reminded of all the love from friends and family!

For my bridal shower, my mom also purchased us a beautiful Bible with our names on the cover. She has guests highlight their favorite verse and sign their name. We used that as a guest book as well so we can look back on those scriptures!

Decor: Our ceremony decor consisted of on a cream chandelier that we rented from the venue. I wanted super simple. Nothing to take away or distract our guests, but also to highlight to beautiful backdrop. We got married under a massive and stunning oak tree and I felt she was a star of the decor. Nothing additional or unnecessary fluff was going to make her any more beautiful.

Our reception was SUPER simple. We rented farmhouse tables from our venue, which thankfully don’t need much decoration since they’re beautiful on their own! I took the labels off of 40+ wine bottles that we’d saved or collected from my parents and friends to use on the tables. My mom added glitter to about half and our florist filled them all with flowers. We added gold candle votives as well for a change of dimension and a little romantic lighting. I was able to rent the majority of those from our florist and then purchased an additional 25 + the tea lights on amazon. We let all of the guests take home the wine bottles with flowers so they could continue to enjoy them at home and hopefully reuse the bottles!!

How did you incorporate being conscious and eco-friendly into your wedding?


The devil is ganging up on me

I know that when it feels like the devil is ganging up on me, it’s because he is. But also because I’m on the edge of something amazing. Something from God. For God and because of God.

Losing friends is an unfortunate part of life. Whether it’s from a fight, disagreement or simply growing apart. It sucks when it happens and the last few years it’s happened more than I’d like. But it’s taught me two major things.

It’s taught me who really is in my corner. Who really is my ride or die friend. Through thick and thin. Regardless of the bad decision or rude comment. That person who offers to help hide the body kind of friend, hypothetically of course. The one you get a tattoo with, because you know no matter the distance between you both, you’re always in their heart.

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And it’s taught me how my personal growth changes friends views of me. People want us to be who THEY want or need us to be, and when that starts changing, they may not benefit the way they’d like to anymore.

Change is not always bad, especially if it’s good, positive, healthy change.

I went through a period of my life, fairly soon after moving to Texas, and it was a really low point in my life. I was making terrible decisions on the regular, partying way too hard, and waking up less ashamed of my choices, complacent to how I was living my life. Like a callus was being created over my heart. When months before I’d be so disappointed in my choices, now it was just me being a normal 25 year old. Sleeping in beds that weren’t mine, next to men that had never changed my last name.

Looking back, I really did have a good time. I had some great girlfriends who were also single and wanted to party all of the time. But now I can acknowledge how sad, lonely and depressed I really was. I would constantly post on social media so the world thought I was living this incredible and happy life. The life of the not so rich and definitely not famous. Trying to meet what I thought was the worlds expectations of me. Because I didn’t feel like me, just who I was and as I came, wasn’t enough. But more so because I didn’t even know who that person was.

Now I know I was enough. Yesterday. Today. And tomorrow.

This has been a really hard lesson to learn. That I am enough. Not because now I have a husband and a new last name, but because my identity is in Christ. And I’ve found that.

And I have changed. I don’t drink at all anymore. Not because I had an issue with alcohol but because it didn’t provide me anything positive in my life, and because it allowed the devil a way to break me down when I didn’t have a sound mind.

Never forget that when the people closest to us start to tell us we’ve changed, and you know you’re starting to look more like Christ and less like the world, to take it as a compliment. We’re called to look and act different. And when people start to notice, you may be on the right track.

I am truly happy now. Not because of my girlfriends or my husband, but because I am wholly and authentically myself. I found a space where I could live my truth. Regardless of what it looked like to anyone else. Or what pushback I got from other people. I couldn’t have said that two years ago. Or even 18 months ago. But I can say it now. Because God has showed me who I am in Him. Because I’m a daughter of a king (Gal 3:26). Because I’m fearfully and wonderfully made like Psalm 139:14 tells us. Because I’m loved (Isa 43:3). Redeemed (Eph 1:7). Transformed (Romans 12:2). Saved (Eph 2:8-9). Cherished (Isa 49:15). Free (John 8:36). And not because of anything I ever did, but because of everything God did. And there is nothing I can ever do to lose that. I was chosen, and that was after He knew every bad decision and thought I ever had made.

I pray you have a moment where a friend tells you you’ve changed. And you can look inside yourself and smile, realizing you’ve grown and changed for the better, even if they don’t see it that way. I pray you have the strength to continue walking in your truth, towards the cross and away from the world. Living for Christ instead of for culture. I pray that your identity in Christ is louder than who the world tells you to be, and that you’re strong enough to stand up to it. I pray you never forget that the Lord will not fail you or dismay you, because He goes before us. Amen.

Deuteronomy 31:8 “It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not fail you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.”


Freedom is going to require change.

Stephen and I have been discussing what our life post honeymoon will look like. We both know that we’ll be buckling down when it comes to our budget to get out of debt as soon as possible.

I was listening to a recorded sermon by one of my favorite Pastors Steven Furtick. He was teaching about the Israelites crossing the red sea but made a statement that has really stuck with me.

” Freedom isn’t going to come with a good feeling. Freedom is going to come by force, focus and frequency.”

What a simple but incredibly profound statement. I heard it and immediately applied it to our future budget. Budgeting doesn’t come with a good feeling. In fact, it’s going to require a lot of change on both of our parts so that we’re able to one day have the life that we have been dreaming of, but it is absolutely going to take effort and be a challenge.